Why are Americans still promoting abstinence only programming and pledges?
Full Disclosure: I took the “True Love Waits” pledge . . . and kept it.
According to the the Washington Post, youth who take abstinence pledges are as likely to have sex (including oral, and and anal) as those that do not. This study is an expansion from previous studies – that have reported the same thing – because it compares youth who have similar views on sex with one another rather than simply taking a blanket analysis.
The new analysis, however, goes beyond earlier analyses by focusing on teens who had similar values about sex and other issues before they took a virginity pledge. . .
The findings are reigniting the debate about the effectiveness of abstinence-focused sexual education just as Congress and the new Obama administration are about to reconsider the more than $176 million in annual funding for such programs.
“This study again raises the issue of why the federal government is continuing to invest in abstinence-only programs,” said Sarah Brown of the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy. “What have we gained if we only encourage young people to delay sex until they are older, but then when they do become sexually active — and most do well before marriage — they don’t protect themselves or their partners?”
We spend 176million dollars annually on abstinence only programming? Are you serious? Why is the government paying for this? Why are my tax dollars going to this? It is not that I don’t believe in abstinence before marriage. I just don’t think that tax payers need to dish out money to promote values, which not everyone shares, when there are other things to pay for. I can’t structure a mass transit system, or create a park system, but I can surely teach my child about sex and God’s intentions for our relationships.
What matters are the values that we instill in our children. Not whether they take a pledge or not. Youth say and do anything, positive peer pressure is not bad, but it is usually only effective in immediate situations not attitudes and values. I was a virgin when I got married, but it wasn’t because I took a pledge it was because my parents had taught and modeled a proper sexual ethic.We mustn’t strive to stop premarital sex, we must cultivate a healthy, Christian sexual ethic which includes, understanding issues of premarital sex, martial sex, sexual orientation, sexual health, sexual speech etc. As Christians we strive to be Holy not simply to not to be overt sinners.
When the government and organizations take the place of parents, we get in pay the cost in more than tax dollars. We trade programs for relationships. Honestly, if Christians want to make a societal change, fight the sexual culture of TV, Movies and Music. But really, Christian parents, the best thing you can do is be the parent. Don’t let your 12 year old (or teenage) daughter buy Britney Spears’ new album, don’t ignore the sexual content of artist like Soulja Boy Tell’ Em
Parents stop what you are doing, stop being busy, stop being afraid, and teach your kids about sex.